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my eye contact says I’m listening, mm hmm

When I think about how to describe this, the first thing that I want to say is that I love my son so, so much, I adore this person, he is so uniquely himself and himself is so awesome. So with all this love in my heart, when he talks I listen. I listen and I try to hear. I look him in his green-brown eyes and my eye contact says I’m listening.

green eyes looking forward

He is so sweet and he means well when he tells me the details of a virtual event that has occurred in one of his games. (Sometimes video games, sometimes just regular games that he plays with his toys.) I just have no clue what he is talking about and though I’m trying to hear, my mind is trying to wander. And the words keep tumbling out of his mouth and to my brain it sounds like, “blah blah blah something blah digging blah something blah blah destroy blah blah blah respawn…”

Today I really worked at listening to every word my 8yo son was saying, with the intention of remembering just so I could report here to give context to what I’m trying to describe. Here is, to the best of my memory, what he said,

I dug all the way down to the end of the world, I was in Survival, I mean Creative. I was in Creative, and I dug down, down, when you’re in Creative it just takes one hit to destroy a block, so I dug and dug and dug, way, way down, and then I looked up and it was so high, I was so far down, and then I kept digging and digging, and I went all the way down to the end and it was just black. And I died, and then I respawned. When you are in Creative, the only way to die is to dig all the way down to the end. When I respawned I was in my house. When you respawn you start over in the nearest safe place and the nearest safe place was my house.

He starts to leave my room, but comes back and says,

It should be that you dig all the way down and then you reach lava. You don’t die in lava on Creative, you just catch on fire and the only way to put out the fire is to go in water.

He does this all the time. He’ll come find me, wherever I am, whatever I’m doing and, with zero preamble, he’ll launch right into one of these long, long descriptions.

I don’t mean to space out when he goes on these long tangents. But I won’t be tested later and instead of paying attention to each word I’m thinking, “He is so articulate, he is getting so tall, my little guy is growing up, golly, he is so darn cute.” He’d have my head if he knew I was thinking those things while he is telling me details of conquest and adventure and success.

100 non-redeemable points go to each and every one of you who knows what my son was talking about and mentions it in the comments.

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46 comments on “my eye contact says I’m listening, mm hmm

  1. PsiFiGal
    October 28, 2014

    I know nothing about the new video games, I used to go to the arcade in the 80’s, I loved Centipede and Tempest. I miss those games.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 28, 2014

      I don’t know those ones. I used to play Sim City when I was a kid, and I liked it okay. I think Minecraft is sort of like that (I’m sure I’ll be told no, it isn’t, but whatever).

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  2. normalisboringsoiheard
    October 27, 2014

    Sigh, I tried to play, so when it’s the 3 of us, daughter 13, son 11, they build our world on survival , entitled “Mom”, believe it or not, we found a really cool cave with a bunch of iron, diamonds and other stuff they deemed super cool in it, after I found it, I had to stay at “our home” which they build me a nice room, I am allowed to putz around the house – because I have no clue still how to work the controller, (my head is looking up, or at the ground or at myself). I get to wear the queen skin and when they get in over their heads they teleport their dumb selves to me, so it’s very much like real life. I am home base. It sucks, oh and I have them make me swords and armor, because I don’t know how. I tried playing call of duty, with son 21, and daughter 13, but he got SUPER MAD, because I shot both of them, we were all on the same team, oops, TWICE. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜! Sorry, I am the Atari generation, I don’t bother to try to learn the TV remote. Your right, it’s better to just look at them and go, “wow that’s so cool, what’s your grade in math right now?”. 😊

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 28, 2014

      That’s pretty funny. I got hooked on playing Plants vs. Zombies over the summer. I unlocked all the levels and the mini-games and my boys were happy b/c they could play on “my” profile/account whatever it is.

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  3. divorcedandsingleblog
    October 27, 2014

    Well done on remembering all that!

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 28, 2014

      I might have missed a few parts, but that was essential the jist of it. πŸ˜€

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  4. Jim woods
    October 27, 2014

    My grandson is 15 and even when he is talking about the real world it still sounds virtual to me. I understand that blank stare, trying to convince him I am listening but my mins is still trying to catch up with his first sentence.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      Yep, it is that first sentence that clues me in to whether this is a conversation that I will understand, or one that I will listen to without understanding most of it. πŸ˜€

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  5. onehundredtwentythreedays
    October 27, 2014

    I have NO idea what he is talking about but he is thinking, problem solving, and completely enjoying himself – it’s great!

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  6. Kelly Unbuttoned
    October 27, 2014

    My son is now 18, and I can COMPLETELY relate. It doesn’t get any easier as they get older, it’s just that the content material changes. He still mentiions the odd video game play, but now I hear about his day playing paintball, or Airsoft. And as soon as he starts using his favorite filler word “Like”, all I can think to myself as he’s telling me a long-winded story about something I have no experience with is, “God, I HATE that cursed word!. Why can’t he just speak to me without every second word being ‘LIKE'”. Oye!

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  7. ladygrace33
    October 27, 2014

    I’m sitting here with a big smile on my face og nodding in recognition. My son also did that…. and still do, but not so often as when he was younger πŸ™‚

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      They are so cute when they do that. I enjoy those conversations so much, even without understanding them.

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  8. ljaylj
    October 27, 2014

    I can’t tell you what you want to know. I can tell you that is how I learned about My Little Pony and every princess that was available from Disney at the time my daughter was that age. It does get easier when they start speaking reality…later, much later. πŸ˜‰

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      Yeah, I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t make any more sense to me if it was My Little Pony and princesses. It’s so cute, though, even when it makes no sense. πŸ˜€

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  9. Γ‰ilis Niamh
    October 27, 2014

    I used to do that to my mom growing up, but in my case it was to tell her my dreams. I’d run into her room and say, I had this awesome dream… and then twenty minutes later, I was done talking about it. I don’t think she really listened. πŸ™‚ My younger brother loved video games growing up, and still plays them. I have the hardest time paying attention after five minutes or so of description.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      Oh, my other son totally does this about his dreams. Just when I think he’s finished, he’ll keep going on and on to the point where I wonder if he’s still remembering his dream or if he’s starting to just make stuff up. πŸ˜€

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  10. Sarah
    October 27, 2014

    My daughter is Minecrafting even as I type… She’s given up trying to explain it to me. πŸ™‚

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  11. The Daily Blabber
    October 27, 2014

    Sounds like Minecraft. I zone sometimes too, don’t feel bad lol.

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  12. NotAPunkRocker
    October 27, 2014

    MInecraft. The Lego of video games that will have its own Lego set out soon enough.

    I remember just asking what the point was…”it’s a sandbox game, Mom!” is what I was told.

    Okey dokey then. I thought someone was pounding on the front door one day; nope, just the kid mining something metallic.

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  13. mjmsprt40
    October 27, 2014

    I’ve been on the opposite side of that just about my whole life– I’m 59 now. I know full well that when I talk, nobody really listens. You hear all right, but listening– really listening– is something most folk just don’t do.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      Perfect opportunity to throw in some really off the wall statement to see if anyone is paying attention. πŸ˜‰

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  14. rachealizations
    October 27, 2014

    Minecraft. I feel your internal conflict.

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  15. joeyfullystated
    October 27, 2014

    Minecraft, all the rage with youngsters these days. My nephew will be wearing a square pixelated head for Halloweeen…

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  16. Ru
    October 27, 2014

    It’s a game called minecraft that gives you a set of tools and allows you to create your own virtual world. I understand what you are saying as I feel that with my parents and then later, in a role reversal, with my tech savvy hubby. They (my parents) sort of zone out when they have no idea what I am talking about, which is almost always. I used to do that with my husband until I realised that I was making him feel the way that they made me feel. The problem is it sometimes makes you not want to waste your breath explaining something important to you when the other person is always zoning out. Minecraft is a fun game, maybe if you try it, you might be able to better understand what he is talking about and create a dialogue instead of a monologue. I am not a huge fan myself but I can play for a while here and there if it’s something we can do together. Happy gaming πŸ™‚

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      100 points! I do want to try it, I just haven’t found the time yet, we’ve only had it for a few weeks.

      My husband is a computer guy too, sometimes I just have to interrupt him and say, “could you repeat that in normal people language?”

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  17. Charlie
    October 27, 2014

    I have no idea what game that is (my kids know of Minecraft, but don’t play it), but my 8 yr old daughter rambles in the same way! I have to consciously remind myself to focus back on her. Sometimes I’ll focus so much that I start thinking, “man, she has a lot of freckles” or “her eyebrows have 148 hairs….”…

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      LOL – the more I listen, the more I am confused, and if I start asking questions, he’s like, “Mom! I just explained that!” Explain it again kid, Mommy’s kinda slow with this stuff. (it was Minecraft)

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  18. Laina Earl
    October 27, 2014

    Mine craft! Most boring game ever, well to me anyway. My girls love it! I’m a Tetris Kinda gal!

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  19. christianliving2014
    October 26, 2014

    This is probably horrible but sometimes I tend to do this with my mom. I don’t mean to. It’s something I guess I need to work on.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      Well, your mom is an adult, you can let her know if you are not interested or steer the conversation in a different direction.

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  20. amommasview
    October 26, 2014

    Oh, Minecraft! I find it hard to listen too πŸ˜‰

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  21. jsackmom
    October 26, 2014

    He’s speaking Minecraft!!! My son has me fluent in it. I still can’t handle the spinning camera angles without wanting to hurl. But wow his creativity, and all the wonderful things he’s built keep me fascinated and entertained. πŸ™‚

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    • thehonkinggoose
      October 27, 2014

      100 points!

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      • jsackmom
        October 27, 2014

        Wahoo, what can I cash them in for. πŸ˜‰

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        • thehonkinggoose
          October 27, 2014

          The fine print above explains they’re non-redeemable points. Which means you get to keep them forever. It’s all for the glory… πŸ˜€

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          • jsackmom
            October 27, 2014

            Oh I just read that again. It’s all good I’m content to know I’m a winner. πŸ™‚

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