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letter to my 16 year old self

This is going to be anticlimactic, y’all, because I don’t really have anything to tell my 16 year old self. I mean, I could be all cliche and warn myself to stay away from troubles that I now know that I got into or reassure myself that everything works out fine and my young self needn’t fret about it. But why bother?

I mean, everything really does/did work out okay. So what if I could send a letter back in time to myself and I somehow changed something and fucked it all up. Wouldn’t that be a damn shame? Yes, I think so. I guess there’s also a chance I could change things for the better. But why take the risk?

When I think back on the ‘mistakes’ I’ve made so many come to mind. But those experiences are an integral part of who I have become. I am myself. I don’t think I would want to take that away.

I broke laws, I broke cars, I broke at least one heart, that I know of. I took drugs, I took risks, I took at least one boy’s virginity. I saw sunrises, I saw sunsets, I saw stars.

But I never saw the future. Not until it became the present. And I don’t think it would do any good to see into the future. That is the kind of thing that would just mess with a person’s mind.


painting The Crystal Ball by Robert Anning Bell

30 comments on “letter to my 16 year old self

  1. micheledbeal
    December 15, 2014

    why change the past if you are happy with the present

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  2. Eddie Pitts
    December 8, 2014

    My problem is that my 16 year old self wouldn’t bother to read it, that guy was a dick that knew everything!

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  3. myfullcup
    December 5, 2014

    I so agree! I am greatly annoyed by the question, “If you could go back and tell your younger self anything, what would it be?” Honestly, I wouldn’t waste my breath because I wouldn’t have listened anyway.

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  4. kantauriitsasoa
    December 5, 2014

    Writing a letter if you could read it is dangerous because you can change all your life in a second and make the future different. Maybe you become better person o maybe worse, may be you choose different ways to discover the truth or your motivation, may be you could be living in the same way as now or may be you could be a thousand miles away doing somebody knows, whatever. If I write anything to me when I was 16 years old I probably write something like this:
    ” Don’t care about the past is gone, don’t care about the future, is far away. Live your life here in the present and try to be the happiest as posible. Don’t be afraid, there is anything impossible in the world. Try it and you get it.”
    But I think that I don’t understood anything so… πŸ˜€

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  5. hazeldawson
    December 4, 2014

    Being 16 is crazy n I know it….. coz me a 16er too!!! πŸ˜›

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  6. Dustin John
    December 3, 2014

    Great post! Maybe throw in that your 16yr old self should invest in Apple stock. πŸ™‚ thanks for sharing.

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  7. David Brian Paley
    December 3, 2014

    I can never believe I’m actually saying this whenever I say it, but I say it every time, and I mean it, “I wouldn’t change a darn thing!” (No preaching intended here, what follows is entirely about ME.) As a Christian, I believe God is perfect in every way (not “practically perfect” like Mary Poppins, “Perfect”). Therefore, if God is perfect, and God has a plan for my life, then at this moment, and at EVERY moment in my life, I am exactly where God, who is perfect, has planned for me to be at that precise moment in my life. If I were to change ANYTHING, even if I could, I would alter that perfect plan, making it LESS than perfect (there is nothing MORE than perfect), and thus ruining my life. -End of what might have seemed like preaching, but wasn’t.- So have a great day, oh GREAT GOOSE, and be satisfied with the life so wonderful that you have become heroine to a 57-year-old recluse only slightly left of center on the sanity scale. Read you later.

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  8. J.Gi Federizo
    December 3, 2014

    You need not divulge anything. Just give wise advice. If she grows up wiser and does wiser decisions because of it, that would not be bad for the future, I think. I mean what if a wise advice from the future could be the key to world peace (I mean it hypothetically, of course)? Wouldn’t be that be very much worth it?

    Just thinking.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 3, 2014

      I feel like there is no shortage of wise advice as it is, and still people don’t heed it. My mom gave me heaps of wise advice at the time and I probably should have listened, but didn’t. People need to make their own mistakes to learn their lessons.

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      • J.Gi Federizo
        December 3, 2014

        I agree. I just think it would make a difference if it were my older self talking to me πŸ˜‰

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        • thehonkinggoose
          December 3, 2014

          Do you think? I was so obstinate at 16 – I don’t know if I would have listened, even to me. πŸ™‚

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          • J.Gi Federizo
            December 3, 2014

            HA HA HAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, I guess that would depend on the individual and s/he would know whether giving advice would be worth it πŸ˜‰

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  9. sula362
    December 2, 2014

    I agree in part with what you say, but I think if I could I would have told my 16 year old self to embrace life, be confident and be your own person and not to compromise so easily. There are lots of things I wish i had done as a younger person, some of which I am catching up on, but some of which I cannot catch up on now. As the saying goes, we do not regret things we have done, but we do tend to regret those things we did not do – or something like that. I am sure you know what I mean.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 3, 2014

      I do think that is largely true (about regretting the things we didn’t do). C’est la vie!

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  10. Why read the last page if you intend to enjoy reading the book, right?

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  11. Elyse
    December 2, 2014

    Yes, to everything you said. I can imagine getting a letter from the old me. I would roll my eyes just like I did when my parents said “when I was YOUR age …” You got to experience what you’re gonna experience, I think.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 3, 2014

      That is so true. All my mom’s good and well meaning advice were things I should have listened to and learned from, but for the most part I didn’t. Too late now! πŸ™‚

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  12. Quest Sickle
    December 2, 2014

    If I could write letters to my past self, I’d write plenty. Everyone makes mistakes, and no one can control their past. It’s the present that matters.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 3, 2014

      It’s hard to even qualify some experiences as mistakes though, because they are a part of what makes us better people in the end.

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  13. revgerry
    December 2, 2014

    Like your post, thanks for the follow. I never could write that letter either because if I didn’t have the experiences I had I wouldn’t be who I am today, and I (finally) like who I am.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 3, 2014

      It’s a good feeling, liking who we are, and worth the trials and tribulations that get us there.

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  14. Your Moderate Mama
    December 2, 2014

    Agreed!

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  15. myatheistlife
    December 2, 2014

    I want to see the future, ALL of it … one minute at a time, not matter how long it takes. I’m patient.

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