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I talk to myself

Out loud (but quietly, of course). All the time. I talk to myself when I’m cooking in the kitchen or doing the laundry. I talk to myself when I’m at work, or driving in the car, or even shopping in a store.

I should probably not talk to myself when I’m alone in public, but I do it so much that I don’t even notice I’m doing it, so it’s kind of difficult to stop.

Once when I was six years old, I was out with my family. We were going for a walk on a nice trail in a park with our dog. I was telling myself a make-believe story, quietly of course. I was perfectly happy, engaged in my imaginary world, as we walked along. And my mom told me to stop talking out loud to myself, “People will think you are retarded,” she said.

Ouch, that really stung. I felt chastised. And I remember distinctly feeling like it was an unreasonable and completely unnecessary request. Who cares? I thought. I was quite the rebellious child, even at six years old. I did stop talking to myself around my mother, though.

smiley face clip art holding finger to mouth indicating to be quiet with a red x crossing it out

But clearly, I didn’t stop altogether.

I believe it helps my thought process. And it helps me remember to do things when I tell myself out loud. Like if I’m trying to remember to get a list of things from the grocery store without writing them down, I’ll repeat them to myself a couple of times. Then, I’ll be walking down the aisles at the store muttering to myself again to recall them all.

Obviously, I don’t care what people think. If they even notice. Most people are minding their own business too much to notice, I’m sure. And I’m pretty certain no one has ever made the mistake of assuming that I’m retarded.

black and white line drawing of a girl talking

I talk to myself when I’m driving, especially if I’m trying to get somewhere and I don’t exactly know the way. Or I’ll talk to myself about the other drivers. Like, “oh, hello! I didn’t see that guy coming.” When my kids are in car, I’m sure they assume I’m talking to them. But I’m not. I say the same things whether they are there or not and it doesn’t matter if anyone is listening.

I talk to myself at work. I probably shouldn’t. But really, it’s a big store and I’m very quiet. I don’t think anyone has noticed. I’ll say things like, “this needs to go over here, oh – that’s in the wrong spot, I’ll go put that away.”

I’m not an amazing conversationalist with myself. It’s all very boring, day-to-day stuff. I could keep it all in my head, but I don’t. I enjoy talking to myself. Maybe it’s because I’m such an introvert. I don’t know.

So, yeah, I talk to myself. Now you know.

Do you talk to yourself, too?

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86 comments on “I talk to myself

  1. annj49
    November 5, 2015

    Haha! I came back to find you and liked this all over again πŸ™‚
    I didn’t realise I had already commented.
    Memory problem πŸ˜‰

    I felt so at “home” here with this theme πŸ˜‰
    Are you enjoying it?
    Ann

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  2. mudpilewood
    June 9, 2015

    I confess I do but cover it up by having Bob follow me around that way everyone thinks I am talking to a dog.

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  3. mitchteemley
    January 24, 2015

    Wanted to let you know that I’ve nominated you for a Very Inspiring Blogger award! http://mitchteemley.com/2015/01/23/very-inspiring-blogger-award/

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  4. christianliving2014
    January 14, 2015

    That’s cool. I do to. So I’m in the same boat. πŸ™‚

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  5. The Chaos Realm
    December 29, 2014

    Of course (re:talking to myself)!…and to trees, and bugs, and my cats, and plants, and lots of other little critters *laugh*

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  6. juaneismann
    December 11, 2014

    I say stuff all the time when I am alone. When I’m at the store, I’ll usually voice something sarcastic just loud enough for the person next to me to hear. Usually gets a smile but oftentimes a chuckle. Sometimes it is the beginning of a delightful conversation. My GF is accustomed to it and thinks I am hilarious when I do this. So, she is always wanting to go shopping with me.

    Besides, it helps me enough that sometimes I write the comments down only to expound upon them later.

    As well, I verbalize conversations when writing stories. Helps to create a more natural flow to what I put down on paper, or the screen. Sometimes I will repeat a word or a phrase I am trying to get down on the screen in just the right way.

    So, no, you seem normal to me. Besides, everyone else’s opinions be damned! Including my own. Heh.

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  7. dbp49
    December 10, 2014

    Well, I try to, but with all you chatterboxes around, who can get a word in edge-wise. Lol.

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  8. Rii the Wordsmith
    December 10, 2014

    Oh , good, it’s not just me.

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  9. Quest Sickle
    December 9, 2014

    Yup. I just told myself a minute ago, “Aw man, my antivirus canceled,” because it did. Great.

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  10. joeyfullystated
    December 9, 2014

    Oh I totally talk to myself — and anyone else who will listen! πŸ˜‰

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  11. Terri Webster Schrandt
    December 9, 2014

    Yes I talk to myself. I sing in the car. Now, we can pretend we are on bluetooth and not look nutsy-coocoo πŸ™‚ Fun post, thanks for sharing!

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      Our radio has been broken for years, but I’m getting a new-to-me car soon and I can’t wait to sing loudly along to a radio that isn’t just inside my own head! πŸ˜€

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  12. Jean M. Cogdell
    December 9, 2014

    Of course, I find myself interesting.

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  13. blissinger
    December 9, 2014

    Absolutely, I talk to myself. I don’t even care if people hear me, which is one of the bonuses of getting older. I talk to my dog out loud, too, and don’t care who hears me. I agree with Wanda, though, that it’s better to be singing. I’m getting into the habit of making up songs, and now and then I come up with a fragment I like and scribble it down.

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  14. natasha
    December 9, 2014

    Thanks for writing this my sister talks to herself out loud all the time when she was younger the older she got I kept on telling her not to do it but just as you said she is an introvert and reading this has helped me understand her better

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  15. myfullcup
    December 9, 2014

    I’m pretty much convinced everyone talks to themselves. I do. My children do. One more than the other.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      I figure most things are like that – we all do them, just some of us more than others.

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  16. NotAPunkRocker
    December 9, 2014

    Sometimes, especially as I am typing…like now.

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  17. Afrolivia
    December 9, 2014

    I most absolutely do talk to myself! Repeating things out loud is a proven way to help remember things better (like items on a grocery list). Even when I study, I have to repeat the material to myself or to the wall out loud, like I’m teaching someone, again to help cement the material in my head. I think repeating things or directing oneself out loud during work is considered to be within normal limits. But there are times I find myself having full conversations with myself and I have to admit I’m afraid someone will hear/see me do that one day and have me committed to the psych ward! Lol!

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  18. Ethel and Everett Go RVing
    December 9, 2014

    I prefer to call it “thinking out loud” . . . but I do it constantly. That’s half the reason I have Tyler Dog – let other people think I’m talking to HIM!

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      That’s a good plan. I’d get a one of those purse dogs to carry around with me to talk to, if I cared what other people thought (luckily I don’t πŸ˜‰ ).

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  19. The Otaku Judge
    December 9, 2014

    I don’t talk much, whether alone or with people. There have been times when I have taken a week off work, stayed at home and not uttered a single word during that time.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      Oh, man, that would never happen to me. I’m quite talkative – Especially when I’m alone. πŸ™‚

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  20. ljaylj
    December 9, 2014

    Yes, it is always better to hear what I’m thinking–clears up the process. However, I don’t drink sherry and talk to myself when I’m cooking. πŸ˜‰

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  21. Sandi
    December 9, 2014

    I talk to other drivers (my kids are used to it but feel better when another mom does this, too).

    To myself? A bit. More often, I imagine myself in conversations with other people, which is odd. What @Melanie said about not scolding oneself is good advice. (My mom does that at times, and it is hard to hear.)

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  22. gh0stpupp3t
    December 9, 2014

    Yes, I do talk to myself. All the creative types do… or at least that is most say.

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  23. mjmsprt40
    December 9, 2014

    Of course I talk to myself. Sometimes I need expert advice!
    Like you, people who overhear me think maybe I’m a bit weird that way, but– after nearly 60 years I doubt I’m likely to change, and so long as the self-conversation is just that it’s hard to see that there’s a problem.

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    • mjmsprt40
      December 9, 2014

      Talking to yourself isn’t a problem, except that it makes other people a little nervous.

      Having a loud argument with yourself because you didn’t invite you to the dance— now, that might be a problem.

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  24. humorworks
    December 9, 2014

    I laugh put loud at my own jokes. It gets awkward when everyone’s sitting around silently and u just randomly burst into a fit of chuckling…I’ve been told to not do that because it makes people uncomfortable, but I don’t particularly mind it myself so I don’t think I’m going to stop any time soon. How else am I supposed to have an intelligent, humorous conversation?

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    • humorworks
      December 9, 2014

      *out

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      We should not change our behavior because other people are uptight – that’s their problem!

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    • tejamoksy
      January 22, 2015

      lol!!! its always good to know you are not alone evden though it wouldnt really matter if you were ‘cos you will always be you. I just read you describe me there lol.

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  25. annj49
    December 9, 2014

    Yes

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      πŸ™‚

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      • annj49
        December 9, 2014

        I talk to myself ALL the time. Mostly doesn’t matter because I am retired and live alone now, but seemed i was akways having to explain myself when i worked and lived with others πŸ˜‰

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  26. lbeth1950
    December 9, 2014

    Of course, I talk to myself whenever I want to have an intelligent conversation!

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  27. Hazel
    December 9, 2014

    I talk to myself out loud all the time. I know it’s supposably the first sign of madness but I find that it helps me. It helps me to concentrate, to focus, to get all my feelings out. I find that we’re our own best listeners because we’re not going to chastise ourselves or be confused as we instinctively know what we’re trying to say. Hopefully that makes sense.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      Yes! And I find that giving myself verbal encouragement (when no one else is there to do it) can be very helpful too!

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  28. charlypriest
    December 9, 2014

    This made my day, so thereΒ΄s somebody out there that actually suffers from the same problem as I do…..I now feel better, IΒ΄m not alone!

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  29. Yoshiko
    December 8, 2014

    I don’t say it out. I only talk to myself in my head.

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  30. insight07
    December 8, 2014

    I do talk to myself. It helps in organising thoughts. Moreover, sometimes talking to yourself gives you an insight in chaotic situations. That’s what i believe.

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  31. Melanie
    December 8, 2014

    I think it is pretty normal to do this, and, honestly, it really does aid in memory skills. I’ve also been told that it is extremely important to never chastise yourself out loud, because humans believe the veracity of things they hear being spoken in their own voice far more than they do when hearing those same things in the voice of another…that little gem came from an MSW Clinician friend of mine who has heard me say “I’m so stupid, I can’t believe I did that…” Or words to such effect, quite often. She told me i needed to break the habit because it would undermine my success. I’ve tried very hard to stop, and I think there is something to her theory!

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      I agree with that. Sometimes when I’m tackling something especially difficult, I give myself verbal encouragement. When I’m backpacking for instance, and I just want to stop but I need to keep on going, I’ll tell myself, “I can do it. I’m feeling really strong.” and it really, really helps. πŸ˜€

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  32. vvuureoc
    December 8, 2014

    Talk to yourself by all means … as long as you do not loose the argument
    :):)

    They might just fit you for nice stiff jacket that ties at the back ….LOL

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  33. butchcountry67
    December 8, 2014

    yes I do talk to myself…a lot, out loud too, and I really don’t care what people think, I also talk to my higher power a lot, just general conversation (and no he/she doesn’t answer..so no I don’t hear voices lol )

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      It takes a certain kind of person to nurture the talent of not caring what people think. It may even be a superpower.

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  34. Underdaddy
    December 8, 2014

    I talk to myself quietly until I am really into a deep string of thoughts and then I will ask an off the wall question to my wife who gives me the “What the hell are you talking about” look. Oh well.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      Oh well is right. My husband does that to me too, though… just starts up talking in the middle of a conversation, half of which has already taken place in his head.

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  35. djklmnopi
    December 8, 2014

    Most of the time, yes. When driving by myself, reading a book, solving a complex problem. Talking out loud to oneself kinda make the thoughts more actual and lets me easily sort them out. (:

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  36. Marissa Bergen
    December 8, 2014

    Me? Talk to myself? Of course not!! (Yeah right!)

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  37. It may be a bit odd to talk to yourself, sometimes somewhat weird. But as long as you are talking to yourself, you know you’re not talking to an imaginary person. That would definitely be weird.

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  38. Simply Wanda
    December 8, 2014

    I have daily internal conversations and have done this for almost 50 yrs! I saw a therapist briefly in my 40s to learn how to turn them off because they were taking over my life!! Everything’s good now and occasionally I’ll start one when I’m driving. When it happens I just turn the radio on and start singing.. it works!

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    • thehonkinggoose
      December 9, 2014

      Singing is good too. I avoid singing in public though, because I’m not too great at the whole carrying-a-tune part of it. πŸ˜€

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  39. John
    December 8, 2014

    I believe everyone does this but many won’t admit it as though it’s some form of serious taboo. πŸ™‚

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  40. cllgarrison
    December 8, 2014

    I do. Not all the time, but I’m alone a lot since I’m a stay at home mom. If I don’t talk to myself and my baby, who else will I talk to?

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  41. myatheistlife
    December 8, 2014

    Yeah, just not out loud. I do talk to the dog though when nobody can hear

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