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state of mourning

wine bar customers seated at the bar with their backs towards the camera watching election results on the television

Last night, when the results were still coming in, I was at work at the restaurant. As the results began to clarify, there was fear. The denial I was in left, and I felt scared. I could see fear in the eyes of my coworkers, my boss, the patrons. Today that fear turned to sadness for me.

I know many, many good friends who were crying and heartbroken this morning over the election results. I was instantly in tears myself when I realized that I needed to break the news to our children. We are in a state of mourning. Our loss is too great to describe.

We lost safety and security with this result. We lost faith and trust. We lost our balance. We lost our confidence. There is much we still have and all these things we’ve lost, we can gain back with time and a lot of hard work. But it will be a struggle.


I don’t have a television and I did not see, but clips, of either speech by Clinton or Trump. I do not know what the celebration by the Trump side looks like. All I see and feel is this massive heavy weight of sorrow among my closest people.

And that fear is still there, too. Because many people today are now questioning the place they have here within our society. We have legitimate reason to believe that not everyone is equal or welcome under this new presidency. What does that mean for us as a diverse nation of mostly immigrants and descendants of immigrants?

I am part Asian. I have family members who are black and hispanic. I have friends who are gay. I know someone who is transgender. I work with someone who is a citizen, but wasn’t born in this country.

A victory for Trump feels like hate and rejection to all these people, to me.

golden lady of justice statue holding the scales of justice

Yet, I don’t hate anyone that voted for Trump. I suspect I may know and care about more than one person who has done so. I don’t hate them for it. I love them. Because I would never say that I love all these people – all these Asians, blacks, Hispanics, gays, transgenders, immigrants – I would never say that I love them in spite of our differences. I don’t see any differences. We are all the same. We are all human. Same goes for anyone that voted for Trump. They are not any different than me. We are all human.

What is that saying? “To err is human. To forgive is divine.”

I am not divine. It is not my place to forgive anyone. We are all doing our best, with what we’ve been given in this life, I firmly believe that.

Mourning a great loss like this is a process. But we can’t step away from our lives and take time for it. In the midst of our sorrow we must face the hard work of making it better. I don’t feel ready yet, but there is no time to waste. We need to help each other. We need to protect each other. We need to be strong and brave. Now more than ever.



16 comments on “state of mourning

  1. AlwaysARedhead
    November 11, 2016

    I worry for you our American friends, for what the next four years will bring.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Mrs. Mother Dirt
    November 10, 2016

    I cried too. There was a dark cloud at work with groups of women hugging and talking amongst themselves off in the corners of the office. I have decided to turn off all TV, NPR, etc… I am also opting out by drastically reducing my consumer spending. I will be giving volunteer time and money to local women’s organizations, and teaching my daughter that she is a F***ing BOSS!

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 10, 2016

      I have two sons. When I drove them to school yesterday I advised them to do an extra kind thing for someone, perhaps someone they wouldn’t normally be nice to. I think they were confused because they are pretty nice to start with! But the message is worth reinforcing that goodness wins when we treat everyone with respect and kindness.

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      • Mrs. Mother Dirt
        November 10, 2016

        Good for you! And I agree. I told my step-daughter (5th grade) that if she witnesses another kid make a statement about “building a wall” or bullying other kids based on religion or race to TELL a teacher immediately. She was little confused too but said “of course I will”. Tolerance starts at home.

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  3. Grumpa Joe
    November 10, 2016

    Well said. What you have described is exactly the same feelings I had with all my conservative friends eight years ago. This country will survive and so will we. The immigrants will continue to come and to have a hard time assimilating into our society. The LGBT folks will still have the same rights, and respect they have today. Social services will still be available and healthcare will improve as will the lives of 94,000,000 people who lost their jobs to the community unorganizer’s policies. We may not like the people who are going to do the job, but they will do it to the best of their ability. The Left will oppose every move the new admin makes no matter how much sense the moves make. In the meantime the Right will do its best to balance the budget and live within the means.
    Have faith, and give these new directions a chance to work.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 10, 2016

      These are not new directions. Don’t forget, Grumpa, I’m not a Democrat either. The places that Trump/Pence will take us in the next four years are not even remotely a divergence from the path we are already on as a nation. Trump/Pence won’t bring back manufacturing and mining to America. And they won’t do anything to preserve the natural resources that made our country so wealthy to begin with. So don’t tell me about “new directions” – these will be the same types of policies we’ve seen under the Bushes, the Clintons, and the Obamas.

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      • Grumpa Joe
        November 10, 2016

        Only time will tell.

        Liked by 1 person

        • thehonkinggoose
          November 12, 2016

          You know what, I am going to take one step back away from the bubble of my reality. I admit, now, from this standpoint, that Trump/Pence will be a different direction for our country in many ways.

          Liked by 1 person

  4. vvuureoc
    November 9, 2016

    Welcome to the club,I hope there are some people in goverment left that can put brakes on the worst of the actions he will start.

    Liked by 2 people

  5. exoticnita54
    November 9, 2016

    I really feel your sorrow and your pain.. and your fear

    Liked by 2 people

  6. TheOriginalPhoenix
    November 9, 2016

    I’m fully with you on this. We need to advocate for the folks that are going to be marginalized and discriminated against in this presidency. Hate doesn’t define all of us.

    Liked by 3 people

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