the best part about marriage is the sex, for 18+, NSFW

Yes, you read that correctly. You heard it here first, folks. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Here’s the thing, sex with the partner you are married to is reoccurring. I think that’s a good thing. Practice makes perfect. And sex takes practice. No one is awesome at it the very first time. Some people are better than others, like any talent, but everyone can improve with practice. And practicing with the same partner means you are both improving together. That’s beautiful.

Now naturally, there are exceptions to any rule. So if you are married and the sex is just getting worse, I’m sorry, but you best believe it doesn’t have to be that way.

There is a prevailing belief in our culture that married people have sex infrequently. That may be true in many cases, but it is an oversimplification. Do they have sex less frequently than single people? Do they have less sex than they want to have sex? Think about it.

Most people will agree that sex is awkward. You are naked. You are trying to fit together like a puzzle, but the pieces came from different boxes. Plus, there is a tremendous variety of sexual desires and preferences. So finding a partner whose desires and preferences are similar enough to your own, as well as someone as eager to provide for you what you desire as you are eager to provide for them what they desire, well that is a tall order. So when you do find that person – super! – if marriage is your thing, put a ring on it! That is special, you are going to want to keep that around.

Statistically, women have a harder time achieving orgasm than men. Orgasms are fan-fucking-tastic though, so everybody should have them. My experience has been that over the years, my orgasms have gone from really-very-good to better to mind-blowingly-awesome. If they can get even better than I currently experience, bring it on. I don’t know how, but I’m willing to experience it if it’s possible.

I attribute the improvement to being with a partner with whom I feel safe and loved and not judged. The walls come down, we loosen up, we relax, and we enjoy ourselves. We enjoy each other.

Caveat: I’m no expert. I have no formal education when it comes to marriage or sex, just my own experience and observations of others, from which I have formed these opinions. They are just that, opinions. Plus, when I say “the best part about marriage is the sex” I mean that pretty loosely, there are lots of best parts about marriage. I’m a big fan.

What do you think? Are there other factors I didn’t write about? Is married sex really as awesome as I say it is?