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first week at my new job, caution TMI about menstruation

Ladies and dudes, it just so happens that it is impossible for me to recount, in a meaningful way, my first week at my new job without also giving Too Much Information (TMI) about my menstruation as well as a miscarriage I suffered this year. Believe me, I won’t be offended if you skip this post. You probably should. I’m writing this one for myself.

I was hired to work part time at a medium sized retail store in the large town where I live. The population of my ‘city’ is just under 30,000. Not terribly small, but not very big either. That seems relevant to me, to put this all in context I suppose. Some of my shifts are very early (starting at 5am) stocking merchandise. Some are late (until 10:30 or 11) doing ‘recovery’ (putting the store back in order). And some are midday working at the register.

My first two days of work were early shifts doing stocking. I was moving heavy things and shoving and lifting a lot. On the first day, I had just started my period (bad timing to be sure). And during all this hard work I could feel a lot of menstrual blood coming out of me. Like scary a lot. I had one extra pad with me for a four and a half hour shift and I didn’t know if I would make it. I finally used the restroom to change it and I was passing little bits of tissue as well as blood. [This goes back to a miscarriage I had in the Spring this year. The pregnancy was not very advanced, so don’t freak out. After the miscarriage I didn’t get my cycle back for months and then I finally had another round of bleeding and passing fairly large bits of tissue (if you have ever had a miscarriage or you are a nurse or doctor, you will know what I mean by this), after which I thought it was finally over with.] Apparently not, because I had to experience this craziness on my first day at my new job. Which just sucked, So Much. But I lived through it. And I bled a lot the next morning at work, too. But I was more prepared and not as scared.

maxi pads for mentrual periods

All that stood between me and a bloody mess.

If you read my post job interview success followed by my first day of work you will remember that on that first day there was also an issue of overwhelming chemical fumes which gave me a pounding headache that took the rest of the day for me to recover from. Uh huh, that first day was quite a doozy.

I had one shift late in my first week where I was finally trained to do register. I did cashiering at my old health food store job for five years, so I do have experience on register. But that was a small store where we just typed in the price of everything from actual price tags. No scanner or computerized system at all. My new retail job has price scanners and computer registers, of course, which is standard these days. I was a little intimidated by the new system, but that part of it went just fine. I really like being at the register because I get to talk to the customers which is fun for me.

black cash register with computer screen

I don’t want a fight with this machine, I fear I would lose.

The bad news is, as I was working the register, I started to get horrible, really bad, no good, awful cramps. And by this time, I wasn’t even on my period anymore, so it was a complete mystery as to why. I felt like I was dying and meanwhile I had to greet each customer cheerily and be helpful while simultaneously learning the new register and making sure I didn’t make any mistakes. A couple of hours into it, I begged for a break and I found an old bottle of aspirin in the break room and took three. That started to take the edge off after some time passed. By the time my shift ended, I was feeling better.

Which all makes it sound like I am a super sensitive, weak, unhealthy person, right? I would seem that way to me if I didn’t know me. But I’m not. Not usually. Usually I am just the opposite. I don’t know what happened to me this week or why it had to all happen the first week of my new job.

Aside from all that, which has everything to do with me, but no so much to do with the actual job, I really like my new job. It is minimum wage and it is very hard work. But I like the store and so far I like my coworkers and managers pretty well, too. I like to stay busy and work hard anyway, so it feels quite satisfying for me. I know I’ve made this first week sound like I was running a gauntlet. In many ways it was like that, yet overall, I’m quite happy. I think it will work out great for me and for my family. I’m glad to have a job again.

Please don’t bother commenting to say you are sorry for me. I’m not sorry for me and you shouldn’t be either. I have gone through much worse in my life. This was just a bumpy turn on an otherwise lovely road I’m traveling right now. If you have read all this: first of all – WHY? I told you not to! and secondly – I hope my over-sharing was meaningful to you in some way and not just gross.

Have you had a rocky start at a new job? A work disaster or total fail? An exciting, but not in a good way, experience with your own or another’s menstrual cycle? Honk at me!

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44 comments on “first week at my new job, caution TMI about menstruation

  1. grevisangel73
    October 28, 2016

    I was a cashier for six years, and hated it when it was that time of month. Yes, I have had a total fail, my last job at Walgreens. I lasted a week. I couldn’t do it, I was a nervous wreck, and everything was different from when I had worked before. That was several years earlier. I also worked at a pet store. I was supposed to be a cashier, but was so bad they put me on stock.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 3, 2016

      Ugh, starting a new job is the worst. Well, maybe applying and interviewing for a new job is slightly worse even, LOL

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      • grevisangel73
        November 6, 2016

        I would have to agree, but if you can make it through that you would think it would be okay. I don’t know how I made it through the interview, but I think because it was a guy. I seem to have more of a problem if I get interviewed by a woman.

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  2. vvuureoc
    November 22, 2014

    I have a faint idea of the experience and can only offer my respect and appreciation of what you experience. Someone I new whent through 10 to 15 day bleeding session and even had to have a full blood transfer once. Eventually she went for the “H” at early age and has had 90 % less problems since.

    What scared me s—less was the first sex. YES I know it was only a tablespoon of blood BUT it looked and was experienced as much more from my side anyway

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 22, 2014

      That first intercourse blood didn’t bother me a bit – but I think it scared my partner s-less! lol

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  3. cat9984
    November 16, 2014

    I was working on at a project-based company (you only work part of the year). One day I started to bleed and bleed. We weren’t supposed to take breaks, but I looked down and I had bled through everything. Never happened before. Still don’t know why. Needless to say, they let me go home.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 16, 2014

      Yikes! No fun. Supposedly our power as women is linked to menstruation (among other things) but I’m not sure I understand why. :/

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  4. Kerri as Herself
    November 6, 2014

    One time while talking to a customer I sneezed, and discovered I just started my period. I made a tiny squeak noise and had to excuse myself…. yeah…. that was a hoot…

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 6, 2014

      How is it that our bodies have a mind of their own that doesn’t seem to be our own mind?! WTH?!

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  5. PsiFiGal
    November 5, 2014

    Reading this (and the guest post on Sass and Balderdash yesterday: http://sassandbalderdash.com/2014/11/04/guest-post-my-lady-areas-are-guilty-of-attempted-murder/ ) made me so grateful that I have finished menopause, am now blissfully without cramps and bleeding and all the rest. I do still get the occasional hot flash, and sometimes I cry easily, but that’s nothing compared to what I used to go through. I think it’s great that you (and Katie) are openly writing about it, more power to ya, I say!

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 6, 2014

      Thank you for sharing that link – now I can enjoy some sass and balderdash too – funny! Since you have triumphed over menopause, how do you feel about the term ‘crone’? Is it something you could embrace or is it displeasing?

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      • PsiFiGal
        November 6, 2014

        Hee Hee, I think I’ve used the word crone to describe myself, actually I think I said “toothless old crone” or something along those lines. I have no problem with it, but I am sure others don’t feel the same.

        Mary the crone 🙂

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        • thehonkinggoose
          November 6, 2014

          I don’t love the sound of the word itself, but I appreciate the meaning and honor I think it conveys. 😀

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  6. divorcedandsingleblog
    November 5, 2014

    To me every new job is a stress. I get stressed out about meeting new people and new responsibilities, but then again – I like the challenge.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      It can be so satisfying to overcome a new challenge and prove to ourselves how strong and smart we can be. 🙂

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  7. NotAPunkRocker
    November 5, 2014

    I’m cycling every two weeks now. That’s all I have to add to the conversation, other than I wonder how much the blood I am losing weighs each time (sorry, gross, but hey every ounce counts…)

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      Well you could use a Diva cup and find out. :/ I decided to have my IUD removed b/c of frequent heavy periods. I miss the convenience, but not the effect it had on my menstrual cycle.

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  8. IndianDrifter
    November 5, 2014

    argh.. I have had bad menstrual problems and heavy flows which need a change every 3 hours too.. !

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  9. theanimekpopblogger270
    November 5, 2014

    Everyone goes through these days >_<

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  10. Very Bangled
    November 5, 2014

    You have my sympathies (ha! The I’m sorry work around!)… But seriously, it doesn’t surprise me that all this happened on your first week. It takes a while to adjust to a new situation physically and psychologically. I think, for your body, this was a shock to the system. So listen to your body, take a bath and hit the pain killers 🙂

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      That was sneaky! 😉 It has been a big adjustment, you are right and your advice is right on, too. 🙂

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  11. lizziearias
    November 5, 2014

    HHmmm you’ve just confirmed what somewhere deep down I knew – That blogs are therapeutic, being new to the game I thought it was only a way to share my thoughts but I’m realising it’s much more, thanks for sharing. Also, I’m pleasantly suprised by your supportive male readers lol!.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      I too am pleasantly surprised by them – pretty cool. 🙂 I think writing a diary is definitely therapeutic. And a blog is much like a diary made public.

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  12. gh0stpupp3t
    November 5, 2014

    When I first got my period @ age 16 (I was a late bloomer) the pain was unbearabe. I was practically bed ridden. But now it’s ok. A little dull pain.and heavy flow..

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  13. Yonni's Wacky Workshop
    November 5, 2014

    Just happy that you made it through your first week and hope that the rocky road you are traveling gets paved smother sooner than later. All the best.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      Ooo yeah. You know what would be really pretty would be those patterned brick paving stones that allow grass to grow up through them. That’s what I would choose. 😀 Thanks for the well wishes. 🙂

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  14. Kimberly
    November 5, 2014

    You’re funny!!! My 2 cents on why you had all that happen. You were stressed. Stress does that to me to. As for my experience… My DMV past is an example of my life the past 1 1/2 years. It has to get better, right?

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      In my experience, it does get better. And the rough patches are a great way to recognize just how good ‘better’ can feel! 😀

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      • Kimberly
        November 5, 2014

        From my experience (I came from a background of being abused) for it to get better requires a massive mental transformation. Which I’ve been going through for the past nearly 17 years. More so in the past 5 years. Reading my many blog posts across all my blogs show my struggle, changes, and growth. The growth so much so, that, I am now doing my best to make a business of it… A New Life Oasis. With its own blog.

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        • thehonkinggoose
          November 5, 2014

          Yes, mental transformation is key. It’s odd how people tend to live this dichotomy between physical, factual events and our psychological experience of those events. Our thoughts and emotions have so much impact on our experience of reality, yet I don’t see that fully reflected in the way people deal with and talk about life events.

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          • Kimberly
            November 5, 2014

            Probably because life is so fragmented people don’t know how to deal in general. It so frustrates me the way society, govt, media and all that has an impact of influence on people causing them to be under some kind of mine control. I believe this is where all the zombie craze is coming from. I am not a fan.

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            • thehonkinggoose
              November 5, 2014

              Well, I am a fan of zombie fables. Maybe it is a subconscious expression of a humanity that knows deep down it is sleeping through life and must someday awaken.

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            • Kimberly
              November 5, 2014

              Exactly!

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  15. Swarn Gill
    November 5, 2014

    Personally I don’t think you should apologize about menstruation. Historical a woman’s menstrual cycle has been treated as a sickness and something to be embarrassed about when it is simply a natural body function of a female and should be discussed as openly as any other bodily function. I remember when my sister got her period at the very young age of 9, I was 13. She was hurting and looked pale and I kept asking what was wrong, and finally my mom told me (I already knew what a period was from sex education class) and then she said “now don’t go telling any of your friends about it”. I was pretty naive because I remember thinking to myself…isn’t this just a natural thing and every woman goes through it? Why can’t you talk about it? Why would other people really care though? I didn’t even know you could be made fun of for having it. It is a shame that girls have to feel shame for something that is a natural part of who they are.

    My ex-girlfriend who was a wonderful feminist had me read an article one time that talked about what it would be like if men had periods. It was pretty funny because basically it said that if men had periods we’d all be giving each other high fives when one of us got extra blood flow and it would be a celebrated thing.

    Anyway that was a long way of saying your period is just your period. Period. Nothing to apologize for. LOL

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      Maybe it is scary to some men. In part because it is hard to understand without personal experience. And in part because it involves blood and bleeding (though it is not bleeding like you would through a wound, but not all men may understand that either).

      On the other hand, not discussing it openly may have helped give women power in times when the science of it was not well understood. Having secrets can give people strength and power, sometimes in a good way.

      Thank you for your thoughtful comment.

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  16. lucinda408
    November 5, 2014

    its nice to see that you can also unload through writing 🙂

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  17. John
    November 5, 2014

    I am glad you got through that day and the pain. I think many men fail to understand the issues that women have in this manner.

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    • thehonkinggoose
      November 5, 2014

      Most men don’t even want to talk about it, much less understand what we go through. I consider any man who reads or talks about menstruation to be very brave indeed. (Although, maybe not quite as brave as us women who actually go through it.) 😉

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